Let’s speak about the mom funk for a minute. Being a mother may be draining. You’re hardly going to be on cloud nine if you spend your day changing dirty diapers, convincing your toddler not to climb inside the dishwasher, and pulling mashed banana out of your hair.
However, when your mindset shifts from “Kids are crazy, but I’m having a blast” to “Why did I do this?” When you’re asking yourself, “When will it end?” it’s difficult to get out of that mom rut.
So, let’s take a look at what a mom funk is and how to get out of it so you can get back to feeling like yourself!
What is a mom funk, exactly?
This seems like a classic mom funk if you’re in that zone where you’re on the verge of crying at any minute and can’t seem to shake it. Every day can feel the same – lengthy, difficult, and unrewarding.
Short tempers and a constant sense of being overwhelmed by the mountain of laundry, dishes, and children’s duties are all classic side symptoms of the mom funk.
Take an honest look at yourself, and if you feel disconnected from your family and spend more time on the couch reading through your phone than communicating with your loved ones, it’s time to make a change.
Why might a mom’s mood cause issues?
When most parents are in a rut, they’ll be able to recount one episode from their parenting lives. It’s possible that some of them will be quite amusing. The maternal funk, on the other hand, can be rather devastating. The longer it continues, the more it will have an impact on essential aspects of your personal life.
Relationship with your children
If you’re OK one minute and then yell at your kids in a frenzy the next, it can hurt their self-esteem. Because, let’s face it, a screaming mother can be very frightening!
Your love life with your partner
In an ideal world, your partner would pitch in and assist you with all of the tasks that have put you in a mom funk. However, if they’re constantly being subjected to tears, tantrums, and disagreements, this is a one-way ticket to a relationship breakdown.
a lack of motivation
You may lack the energy and motivation to do anything for yourself if you’re in a mom funk. Your mom blues has gone too far if you’re struggling to be productive at work, can’t be bothered to exercise, and have little interest in meeting up with friends.
How to come out of a funk as a mother
So now you know what it’s like to be in a mom funk. It’s not good for you or your family, either. The good news is that there are 13 easy measures you can do to get yourself out of your mom blues and back to being a calm and content mother.
1. Get some fresh air each day.
When you’re in a mom mood, getting out of the home can be challenging, but the connection with nature is well worth the effort. Fresh air is beneficial to your physical well-being.
The increase in oxygen not only helps to enhance your blood pressure, heart rate, and digestive system, but it also helps to build your immune system and clean your lungs.
All of these advantages will give you more energy, allowing you to deal with whatever motherhood throws at you next. But the magic doesn’t end there!
Getting outside will also make you feel fantastic! The more oxygen you take in, the more serotonin, the happy hormone, is released in your body.
2. Start exercising on a regular basis.
If you’re in a bad mood, exercise is a great way to lift your spirits. High-intensity exercise, such as running, releases endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals.
This also stimulates nerve cell growth, causing them to form new brain connections and expanding the hippocampus, the mood-regulating region of the brain.
If you’re in a mom blues, getting started on a new workout program might be difficult, especially if you’re not getting enough sleep and have little energy.
Begin with a short walk or jog, even if it’s only for 5 minutes, and gradually include it into your regular routine. As you progress, you can extend the duration of your workout.
3. Begin keeping a thankfulness notebook.
Are you weighed down by the bad in your life? Writing in a thankfulness diary can help you overcome a negative mindset and begin to focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Make a list of the tiny things you enjoy in a blank notebook or journal. These can be as simple as your child’s grin, a song you enjoy listening to on the radio, or the aroma of mac & cheese for dinner.
You’ll start to become more conscious and rewire your brain away from negativity if you keep a journal of your happy times. Start the 30 Days of Gratitude Challenge today!
4. Take care of yourself.
We all need some alone time, but if your mom time has devolved into mom depression, you may not even have the drive to get up off the couch.
It’s also quite simple to convince yourself that you don’t have time or that doing so would be self-indulgent. Self-care, on the other hand, isn’t selfish. It’s a vital step to take before returning to your family to replenish your batteries and nourish your soul.
Self-care does not have to entail anything drastic, such as a solo vacation. Here are a few easy suggestions:
Soak in the tub
Your nails should be painted.
Meet up with a friend for a cup of coffee.
Make plans for a girls’ night out.
To get started, why not attempt our 30-Day Self-Love Challenge?
5. Accept assistance
Have you ever heard that raising a family takes a village? If you’re shouldering too many childcare obligations, consider enlisting the support of family and friends.
Have an open and honest discussion with your partner about where and when you require assistance. Accept aid from parents or other family members who have offered to babysit if you live near them.
Alternatively, ask someone in your social circle if they could offer a playdate for you to take a break. You have the option of repaying the favor at a later time.
6. Be conscious of the demands of your coworkers.
When a couple has children together, good communication is essential. Take the time to listen to one another and understand what the other is going through. It’s natural to assign blame, but doing so will almost always put your partner on the defensive.
It may appear like you’re the only one having trouble, but there’s a good probability that your family is experiencing a dad blues as well. As a result, attempt to be compassionate and approach your blues as a group.
7. Take a social media break.
When we’re engaging with friends and coworkers on social media, it’s easy to get into a mom slump. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling through Instagram feeds of ostensibly “perfect” families, it’s easy to feel that your own family and mothering skills are lacking.
Anything from the immaculate apparel worn by other families, to the lovely homes they live in, to the flawless organic meals they consume might send you into a mom depression spiral. So, what is the remedy?
Recognize that on the internet, people only share the most flattering aspects of their lives.
Make an effort to keep your social relationships to those you truly care about.
If you need to, take a break from social media and erase those apps from your phone.
8. Meet new people
It’s easy to feel alone when you’re in a mom funk, but it doesn’t have to be. Hundreds, if not thousands, of other moms in your neighborhood, town, or city have gone through similar experiences. Look for some of them!
If you already have mom friends, make an effort to contact them and plan a trip to the park with them. If you’re short on friends, there are lots of moms willing to chat at baby groups or at your local soft play center.
Be proactive, exchange phone numbers, and don’t be ashamed to say you’re having trouble. You’ll be surprised at how many other moms can relate to your situation.
9. Make an effort to stay organized.
Do you have a jumble of toys, books, and outdated clothes in your house? Kids bring a lot of stuff with them, and the clutter can rapidly overwhelm your space. Worse, physical disorder and clutter are associated to anxiety, which might contribute to your mom depression.
If this is an issue in your home, Marie Kondo’s Kon Mari method of tidying may be of interest. The goal is to organize your stuff by category rather than by room, retaining only what you need and items that’spark delight.’ You’ll be left with a tidy, well-organized home that you’ll enjoy living in.
10. Keep a close eye on your bank account.
The only thing worse than having a bad mood as a mom is having a bad mood compounded by financial difficulties. Unfortunately, being down in the dumps might put your finances at risk, since you may be tempted to blow your money on frivolous purchases when you’re not feeling well.
Maintaining control over your household budget ensures that you are living within your means and making progress toward your financial goals. If this has been an issue for you, try some frugal living strategies and make budgeting a priority to get your family’s finances back on track.
The following are some crucial steps:
Keeping track of your spending
Paying yourself first so that you can save instead of spend
11. Begin a side hustle
If you’re a stay-at-home mom who hasn’t worked in a while, starting a side gig that fits around your family’s schedule can help you get out of your funk. Working as freelancers, selling homemade items online, or flipping goods on eBay are all popular side hustles for moms.
A side gig can help you focus on a pastime and boost your self-esteem while also bringing in some extra cash. If money is a cause of stress in your household, a side hustle might be able to help:
Establish an emergency fund.
Put money aside for a family vacation.
Put money aside for retirement.
You can start gently with your side hustle if you have a baby or toddler and no childcare. Perhaps you might work during naps or in the evening for an hour or two. With time, it will be easier to work flexibly around your children and boost your earning potential.
12. Limit your time spent in front of the screen.
In many households, screen time is a source of contention. It isn’t always the case that children are glued to their smartphones. Not only can screens be anti-social, but they can also be harmful to your eyes and mental health if you use them excessively.
This is due to the blue light they emit, which can cause sleep disturbances. If you’d rather read through your Twitter account over dinner than talk to your family, it’s time to snap out of your mum blues and bring some good energy back into the room.
Set some limits on when and how long you and your children can use screens, and stick to them! You might want to group your screens in a social manner. For example, watching a beloved movie together or chatting with long-distance relatives via Facebook Portal.
13. Spend more time with your children.
Going back to basics and acting like a big kid might sometimes help you feel better. Nothing will make your family happier than seeing you crawl around on the floor pretending to be a monster or swinging as high as you can in the playground.
One of the most effective ways to relieve stress is to act ridiculous and laugh out loud. A good laugh can lower stress chemicals like cortisol and increase feel-good endorphins.
Put an end to your mommy funk!
Recognizing that you’re struggling is the first step toward getting out of your parenting funk. Parenting may be difficult, so being down in the dumps now and then doesn’t make you a bad mom.
But keep in mind that as a mother, the days are long but the years are brief. So take advantage of the time you have with your developing family.
If you’ve tried the techniques above and your symptoms aren’t as mild as a mom funk, you could be suffering from depression. You must seek medical guidance in this scenario to discuss a treatment plan. Remember, we all need help from time to time, so don’t be afraid to ask!